How To Eat Out with Whining & Fighting Kids

You want to eat out with your kids, but you picture this:

• Kids whining at the table

• Siblings kicking and picking at each other

• Kids’ tantrums, outbursts, and demands 

• and you shudder at the thought and drop the idea. 

Wait!  You need not do this.  It is possible to manage the above problems with a simple and straightforward approach. 

Eating-Out:  The Three Strike Rules Always Wins!

For kids…the message is…

“Guess what guys, from now on…when we go out to eat…We only eat in peace. As long as things are peaceful, you can stay and keep eating. 

 “If you kids do not eat in peace (whining, complaining, negative, hitting, kicking, arguing, or fighting) , I will tell you, “That’s strike one. This is your only warning kids.” End of discussion.

Explain to the kids that they are “free to eat out as long as you do not complain, whine, hit, kick, yell, or show tantrums.” The first—and JUST THE FIRST—time they are found getting out-of-hand, they will get the FIRST Strike warning. 

“Strike two will happen if Mom or Dad has to step in to your misbehaving a second time. When that happens, we will say, “That’s strike two. We are going to the car to take a time out.” Tell them, if they break this rule, mom or dad will take them to the car at once for a time-out. The time can be 5-10 minutes. If they remain quiet during that time, they are in. If not, then they remain in the car. It must include 5-10 minutes of parent enforced silence…not child controlled time. After this ...

We return to the restaurant. You have one more strike. If you still do not eat in peace, you get THIRD Strike and you are out!

Explain to them that a third strike means you will lead them to the car again and they will remain there until the rest of the family finishes their meal. Moreover, mom and dad will not pack any food home. Make them realize that mom and dad are serious and you will have them skip the meal. 

You will not have to repeat this many times to make your kids realize that you are serious about the eating out rules. They must come to appreciate that you will not concern yourself with their not getting to eat…until next mealtime…and that they will go hungry if they act out during dinner out.

Some kids are really stubborn.  Kids that are more stubborn require extra trips to the car over the first week or two, before they learn. 

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