Parenting presents you with many challenges.  Most parents handle the unexpected questions or the awkward moments with relative grace.   That's not really what these articles are about.  These discussions are focused on the common, but often challenging struggles that hook you, and perhaps pull you into unhealthy patterns of reacting. 

The more strong-willed your child...the more demand upon you to be a more skilled parent.   The more such kids PULL us into their oppositional tendencies...the more clarity we need to get out of this unhealthy pattern.   

It's as if the more challenging kids are here to require that we enhance our parenting skills.

These fundamentals of parenting put the ball squarely back in your lap.  We have to start with our own choices.  For example, if you want your kids to keep their cool...you have to be able to keep your cool...even when it's tough!

You can't expect your kids to lead...and you get to follow.  NO!  Some parents say..."Oh, once my kids get better...then I will get better."

NO... AGAIN!  It just doesn't work that way. 

Instead, we all know the truth.   It must start with how I lead. 

What do I model as a parent?  If I allow myself the excuse that it's okay to lose my temper when I'm not getting what I want...then, or course, my kids must understand that it's okay for them to lose their temper when they don't get what they want.  This is just a fundamental.  You can't escape it.

This section of the website is devoted to the key concepts and strategies  that parents must grasp to take control of their own behavior.  Powerful and lifelong changes can unfold when...and only when...parents master their own choices and reactions. 

Once you get this...you can then begin to effectively apply the tools of Terrific Parenting.  You can begin to make a massive difference in your home.

As you explore this website, it is essential that you learn how to recognize patterns of behavior and separate your responses when you are working with patterns ....versus... when you are responding to an occasional event.  Read more about Recognizing Patterns by clicking here! 

Read more about simple ideas that can help you with everyday parenting struggles.  Check out each of the articles below.