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These same children are at risk of having their poor self-esteem steal their childhood joy from their life.
Over the past 20+ years of helping families as a Licensed Psychologist, I have listened to thousands of parents worried sick about their children. They had a child who showed signs of low self-esteem, and the consequences were starting to
affect every area of life, at home and at school. In the classroom, children were hesitant to raise their hand. At home, they were un-motivated.
Because there was such a lack of self-confidence, these same children showed no initiative or self-confidence with their peers. They
refused to play sports or demonstrated little
 personal confidenceeven when playing in the back yard.
Their children were miserable. Their children complained. Their children struggled with any new challenge.
What could they do? Was there a real problem that they should worry aboutor would it just pass on its own?
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"What are your results? Should
you be worried
about your childs self esteem?"
If you find yourself saying
"yes" to even one of these critical indicators of low self-esteem, then you likely have a problem. You may have tried conventional approaches, and you find nothing worksand in fact, things are getting worse.
Heres what Annie recently emailed to me, after she took the Confidence Test:
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After I took the Confidence Test, I just shook my head. My daughter showed all the signs of low self-esteem. In my heart, I already knewI started to cry. I feared there was nothing I could do to help. I could see her life full of disappointments, doors that she would never be able to open, and joy she just couldnt touch. I felt so hopelessI just stared at the computer screen.
But then, I kept reading what you had to say, Dr Cale, and I found hope.
Ultimately I also found the answer to my prayers, when I took what felt like a chance on your Confident Child program. It turned out to be the best parenting decision I ever made. Every aspect of her confidence is better nowits like I live with a different child. How is that even possible? What a miracle Dr Cale!
-Annie, mother of 8 year old Justin
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Parents who worry about their childs self-esteem
are often commenting
These parents are scared to death! They often find themselves talking about their son or daughter who has no confidence, and trying to find ways to build them up.
Mom and dad will lay awake at night worrying about their son or daughter. They can only imagine that their child will be robbed of success for the rest of their life.
While in their hearts, they know their child deserves more, these parents clearly understand that life is not kind to those who do not stand up for themselves.
But heres whats most important: None of these parents are ignoring this issue.
In fact, they are doing everything that they can do.
They had read books. They worked on building up their childs self-esteem. They would try to correct their son or daughter every time they made such negative comments.
They also did everything they could to encourage participation. They promoted involvement in extracurricular activities. They would attend all of these activities, and constantly support their child with encouragement.
At times, they would take their son or daughter on long walks, or sit with them at night, and offer words of encouragement and support.
These were not lazy parents. These were not parents who were ignoring the issue.
In fact, these were parents who were working extremely hard at building up their childrens confidence.
And I foundover and over againthat
the typical approaches dont work!
And it wont work for you!
It wont work for your child.
In my public speaking, and media interviews, I occasionally get challenged by a parent or interviewer who will assert that the encouragement approach will work. I always remind them.just observe. Notice whether you see signs of more confidence and greater self-esteem when you take this approach. Keep your eyes open to what is really happening.
All we have to do is to observe whether or not this seems to make a difference for children. I have been observing for twenty-five years, and I have noticed that the only thing that happens here is that children become more and more dependent upon their parents for esteemand less independent in believing in their own self-worth and self-esteem.
This is remarkably more damaging than it initially appears. Why? Because you (unintentionally, of course) teach your child to rely upon the opinions of others to find good feelings about themselves. This is not a good plan. It leaves your child totally at the whim of how others evaluate him/her, and unable to generate the thoughts and beliefs to feel good about just doing their best. Its really dangerous, and destructive! And you dont have to make those mistakes!
Learn the secrets of how you build self-esteem.
Over the years, I have studied research from many fields, including psychology, child development, family therapy, cognitive therapy, behavior therapy, Ericksonian hypnosis, neurolinguistic programming (NLP), self-development, child psychopathology, and many more.
I have also carefully examined studies on various medications, and medical approaches to helping children who struggle. I have tried many different approaches, and I have discovered what works.
Here are my fundamental conclusions:
1. Your
child has no-thing wrong with them.
When we think of a child having a self-esteem problem, we tend to think
that something is wrong with them. I can tell you that this is not the
case. There is nothing wrong with your child. They are whole and complete.
It doesnt mean that theres not a need for an adjustment. It just means
that we want a different mind set, that embraces your childs wholeness
and completeness, as a healthy starting point to build their self-esteem.
Without a change in your beliefs, every effort will fail.
2.
There is no medication that will help.
Over and over again, we are programmed by the media into thinking that
medications will be the magical cure. I can promise you this: there is no
medication that will make a difference in your childs self-esteem.
You can do the research on your own if youd like, but this is a safe
conclusion.
3. Low
self-esteem is a thinking problem.not a
chemistry problem.
When we understand that we could dissect your childs brain, we would find
that there is no self-esteem tumor, or ugly self-esteem tissue growing
inside them.
IT does not exist. This understanding can help us gain clarity, as it
points us to the thinking problem that exists.
Likewise, there is no chemistry problem that exists. We will not find a
chemical imbalance. It toodoesnt exist.
Now dont get me wrong: your childs chemistry is affected by their
thinking. Healthy thoughts tend to produce positive emotions and that
internal chemistry is of one form. On the other hand, unhealthy, negative
thinking produces negative chemical effects that feel yucky.
But the chemistry is a consequence of the thinkingnot the other way
around.
4.
Your child is thinking a LIE about themselves.
When your child thinks, I cant do it they are thinking a lie. Now they
may not be able to do it perfectly the first time, but this is normal. All
kids have a learning curve.
The difficulty is that your child has begun to thinkand believea lie.
This lie is a huge generalization that comes with enormous consequences.
The more that they believe the lie, the more it expands. It begins to
include other thoughts.like Im so stupid and Ill never learn to do
that.
All of these lies continue to grow because your son or daughter continues
to invest their energy and attention into the lie. As such, it just gets
stronger.
And the way that youre trying to change it...only makes it worse! I guarantee it.
Thats right! Your efforts to make it better are actually making it worse. Its not that you are intentionally doing that.its just the consequence of you working harder their esteeming themselves than they do.
You seeit really works this way. As time goes on, if we end of working harder than our children do at anything, they become weakerthe harder we work. Self-esteem is like a muscle that they have to develop, and most other approaches dont get it. They really dont. They teach you solutions that create the illusion that you are helping your child. However, as time goes on, you discover that you hard work isnt helping to change things. |
With THE CONFIDENT CHILD PROGRAM
You Really Can Equip Your Child With
All The Tools He Or She Needs
To Be Self-Confident
The Confident Child Program uses proven techniques that I have developed from my more than twenty years of experience in helping parents. Most of
these parents were worried sick about their child. They were exhausted from endless daily efforts to help, and many
had tried years of therapyall failing so obviously that their hopes of a confident child were being squashed.
Yet, these same parents have learned from my program that
you absolutely can make a difference in creating self-confident children.
Insiders secret: The focus has been on trying to give it to your child. You cant give it to them. However, you can set up the right conditions so that
your child learns how to build confidence from how you handle things (and with my Confident Child Program
you will know exactly how to handle things in the right wayGuaranteed!).
Ill show you precisely how to avoid directing your energy towards your childs self-defeating behavior patterns
(almost everyone reading this has made this critical mistake). Youll learn that a completely distinctive response to your children can really make all the difference between their self-confidence and their self-doubt. Most importantly, you will be equipped with the tools for setting up the conditions that allow your child to get it on their own.
And by the way, thats the only way they really get itis through their own experience of learning to esteem themselves! I show you how to make certain that your child has the right experiences to learn to esteem themselvesand not rely upon others to make them feel good! But thats only the beginning
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11 Amazing Things
Youll Learn In
The Confident Child Program To Increase
Your Childs Self-Confidence
1.
The critical life-changing difference between harmful
words of
praise and helpful words of
encouragement.
2.
How to supervise your childs homework activities in
a simple, practical way that holds your child
accountable for his or her own achievements.
3. How to follow a clear, specific and realistic plan that will
predictably create a real-life, observable increase in your
childs self-esteem.
4. How to avoid making 5 common mistakes that no one talks
about, and I guarantee that these mistakes will undermine
childrens self-confidence.
5.
Parents discover how to make doing your best more than
just a nice saying, and find how the right approach leads to
best effort on a daily basis.
6.
Why there are no magic words to increase a childs
self-confidence, but there are magic actions!
7.
What children need to learn to separate achievement from
self-esteem that flows from doing our best.
8.
How to recognize and respond to your childs self-
defeating behaviorso that it fades away.
9. How to offer your children support without rescuing them
constantly from their negative self-defeating talk.
10.
How your response to your childrens self-defeating
behavior can transform their beliefs about
themselves.
11.
How to use a daily approach that frees both you and your
child from
constant struggles and battles over what to do
next, so that the focus is
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WHY THE CONFIDENT CHILD PROGRAM WILL WORK FOR
YOU
AS WELL AS YOUR CHILD
The Confident Child Program is a real sanity-saver for parents because the techniques work and the changes are often noticed within weeks. You will feel less frenzied when you see that your follow-through to the lessons in the program gets real, tangible results and your childs confidence is improving daily. You will be able to relax as you see your son or daughter growing stronger, and more self-confident.
You seeI have been down this path with not onenot twonot a dozennot a hundredbut literally
HUNDREDS of families who have struggled with children showing low self-esteem. You get exact easy-to-follow, proven advice for increasing your childs confidence while avoiding common mistakes. The advice works for all age groups and different types of self-defeating behavior.
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"Just For The Parent With Low Self-esteem..."
Some of you (and you likely know who you are) suffer from a lack of confidence. You have been burdened with this feeling much of your life, and you dont want to pass it on to your children. The good news is that I give you the tools to release your worry and fear because you will know exactly what to do, and how to do it so that your limiting beliefs are not passed on to your children!
I promise, that you will be free of this worry, if you apply the principles and lessons I teach in my program. In other words, you dont have to worry that your personal thoughts and emotions will continue to interfere. You release yourself from responsibility by taking the actions I outline in this program. |
So, lets review what you get here, that you cant get anywhere else.
The right mindset that puts you on the
esteem building track.
The critical mistakes to avoid that will
destroy self-esteem.
The specific way to structure routines that build
confidence.
Powerful parental actions that actually
develop self-esteem.
When to use words and when not to use
words.
Tools to encourage self-motivation and initiative.
Strategies that guarantee your child always
learns from their choices. |
I want to warn you. This program requires some change on your part. Some parts of that will feel like a bit of a challenge. Its not for you, if you want a magic solution that doesnt require more of you. I understand that the biggest influence in your childs lifeis you! You have to get itand thenyour child can get it. If you order this program, please be prepared for that.
But here is the bottom line:
I have been doing this with families for over twenty-five years. I have helped thousands of families nurture homes with children who are more responsible, happier, and eager to engage fully in their lives. With no real change in the gameplan, you just keep doing the same thing over and over, its not really going to make a difference.
You probably see this happening already, or you likely would not be reading this
letter. Am I right?
"This Program Will Work Where Other Programs Have Not Primarily For One
Reason..."
Most parenting books try to
convince you that making your kids feel good will make them feel strong. It's
just not true. You instead want to teach them to be strongand then they will
feel good about themselvesrather than just feeling good about a new toy.
Reality Check:
If youre overweight and out of shape, you need to exercise if you want to get in shape. Right?
You could buy some gimmicky thing that tells you youll get fit by sitting at your desk and moving your little toe, but the reality is it isnt true.
You need to go to the gym. If youre overweight and out of shape, when you go to the gym, its not going to feel good. Thats reality.
Whenever we start to stretch and build muscle, it usually hurts a bit.
In your childs world, their muscle of personal self-esteem, is weak and out of shape. They must learn to work this emotional muscle, in order to get strong.
If you went to the gym, and someone else lifted the weights for you while you just held your arms thereyou wouldnt build muscle. The same is true for your childs self-confidence.
You cannot build this muscle for them. They must build it!
And The Confident Child Program shows you how to help them build this muscle of self-confidence! I give you the exact tools to make certain that every day provides opportunity after opportunity for your child to develop their confidence.
If you keep doing what you have been doing, you will fail. Of this, I feel confidentnot because I know you personally, but because I do know many of the mistakes you are making.
You need a program that tells you what to do, when to do it, what to say and how to say it. The Confident Child is the only program that does that. In this one-of-kind home study program, I teach you how to coach your child to build their own muscle of self-confidence and unstoppable self-esteem.
Already convinced. Excellent. Invest Now in The Confident Child!
Some of you may be skeptical. I dont blame you. But keep in mind these facts:
Your childs future is at risk. You know that. I know that. And the correct adjustment on your part will completely change the trajectory of their life.
I am not speaking just from the experience of raising three children. I have literally helped raise thousands of childrenwith results that regularly transform lives.
I am a licensed psychologist with twenty-five years of experience. I have
read just about everything there is to read. I have studied the research. I know
what works and what doesnt work. You get the benefit of all of my years of
learning and experience.
Because of my expertise and my reputation for getting results, I have been
interviewed hundreds of times for TV segments, on a national as well as regional
level. Newspaper reporters seek my opinion on parenting matters. I have written
dozens of articles, and I have worked with thousands of families. I have more
experience in this area than just about anyone you can get your hands on, and
every ounce of my knowledge is poured into this program. |
I do not repeat all of this to impress you, but rather I want to impress upon
you that my opinion is trusted by
thousands. My advice is sought out because I speak in a manner that
is solidly grounded in the research, yet the parenting tools I offer are not
filled with psycho-babble, but are understood by all. Most importantly, my
guidance works because it is based in the fundamentals of learning, behavior
management, and neuropsychology, while educated with the life lessons and the
wisdom of seeing many families walk through my door. You will find that
others trust me because this stuff works!
Still a bit skeptical? I
understand but
Parents Thank Me All The Time For Creating Confident Child Solutions That
Really Work AND WORK FAST:
Only three weeks ago, I was afraid she would never have friends, be able
to assert herself, or smile while doing homework. All of that has changed.
I would never have believed we could make such a difference in only a few
weeks.
-Carolyn, mother of two
I am amazed at how she has evolved in only a month. She is like a
different child. We tried so many other approaches, and it turns out that
the secret was right inside her all along. Thank you Dr Cale.
-Rebecca, mother of Anna (age 5)
When I bought the program, I didnt really trust that it would help
Samantha had such a huge self-esteem problem. Boy was I wrong. Not just a
change, but all of the whining, the negativity, and the endless
self-criticism is gone. Dr Cale, its not just betterits all gone! I
cant believe the transformation
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And if that isn't enough to convince you, I take all the risk out of
this. That's right, no risk!
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How could
you ignore this opportunity to relieve your child of their low self-esteem?
I hope you do not because the only
chance you are taking is the chance of a lifetime to create a healthy child with
a strong sense of self-esteem and to live in a home with fewer worries and less
fear. Its a no risk chance to see
your child blossom into a remarkably confident and focused student who could
take on the worldif they just believe in themselves.
You can give them that gift ,the gift of strong,
confident self-esteem.
Here's the deal. Invest in this program. Follow the
detailed plan. You can easily test the program for yourself... and follow
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But, if you aren't satisfied for any reason, or it
doesn't live up to your expectations, you won't be out one red cent. If for
any reason you are not satisfied, just return the program and I will personally
buy the entire program back from you and you will receive a full refund. It's
that simple. When you buy this program from me, its risk free so why not
take this opportunity to find a peaceful way out of this daily worry over a lack
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1.
The Confident Child Program allows
you to worry less about your childs future success, and more about just
enjoying your child's amazing evolution and growth.
2.
You learn to stay out of imaging what you child is thinking, and to focus
on what you are thinking and believing that will really help them get
stronger fast!
3.
You stop trying to control
your child, and focus more on what you can really control your home.
4.
Your confidence in your child blossoms when you realize what mistakes have
stripped them of the opportunity to be confident and strong, and you know
what to do instead.
5.
You will never be uncertain about what to do or say, and every day awakens
you to the comfort of having certainty about your plan and your future.
6.
The more confidence you learn
to have in your children, the more confidence they'll learn to have in
themselves.
7.
The sooner you start learning
and practicing the proven techniques in the Confident Child, the sooner
you can start seeing these techniques working in your child.
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You will be raving like
Jim and Jenny from Little Rock:
We cant believe its the same child. What I
love with your approach is how simple it is, yet so powerful. No one
really believes that all we did was adjust how we responded to him and now
he has blossomed into his own. It is so encouraging. Why doesn't everyone
teach this to parents?
-Jim and Jenny |
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The Best Of Success and Happiness
To You And Yours,
Dr. Randy Cale, PhD
Licensed Psychologist
Over 20 Years Of Specialization in
Parenting Solutions
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children reach their full potential. I hope you accept this offer today and help
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Remember, there is no
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it doesnt, you have 365 days to send it backand I will buy it back from you if
it doesnt work for you. No questions asked. I want you to be satisfied. More
importantly, I want your child to have the opportunity for a richer, fuller life
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They let the other kids control them.